Friday, March 21, 2014

Happy Mothers Day to All Moms!


If you are a mom... you will know what i'm talking about. single people with no kids might not get this and might even judge me for the things i will say.. first of all dear mom reading this  you need to know that you are NOT alone.. I love my kids and i love being a mother but there are a lot of things about being mother that are driving me MAD and i'm sure you might relate...

I believe all moms had the shock of their life realizing that motherhood is not as EASY as we thought. We knew it wasnt easy but we didn't think that motherhood would be so life changing.From the moment you are a MOM your life does not only revolve around your kids, they ARE YOUR LIFE. and you cant seem to remember how life was Before having a baby. But you are just in SHOCK that this is what motherhood really is a 24 hour job for the REST of your LIFE * GULP


Motherhood is loving your baby even when they look like nothing but a blob with a heartbeat. It is the miracle of life growing inside of you. The miracle of Life and its happening inside of YOU!

You will miss sleeping. You will miss doing a lot of things you used to do and apparently took for granted at the time. Taking a shower whenever you want is a luxury that you didn't know you had back then.




Problem with reality that what we are exposed to growing up and what we see pics of happy families walking around having lunch or a picnic. Happy Family photos with kids dressed up so neatly and smiling perfectly to the camera. We have no idea that in reality to actually take a decent family photo we have to actually yell at our kids to sit in place and SMILE to the camera.



So what i really find hard about being a mother is that Motherhood comes with lack of sleep. Exhaustion. ( physical and mental). When i say mental exhaustion i think what gets to me the most is the WHIINNNNNING! KIDS WHINE.. a LOT!

 typical day..  Me and my huZbandeeee want to go out..
Lulu " mama i want to come with you" Me: no laila you cant its your bedtime
Lulu: i want to come with you. i want to come with you... *crying * screaming lasts for about and hour or till we leave..
then the tantrum gets intense and involves a lot of kicking and banging on the floor.
aAt first you reply calmly.. the first 100 times... then somehow you feel she pressed this button that triggers your inner monster and you scream

" I SAIDDDDDDDDD NOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOO!!!!!!!!!" at the top of your lungs..

* lulu looks at you silent for one split second afraid of the loud scream

2 seconds later

" Can i come with youuuuuuuuuuuuuuuu"

aaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaah!


Motherhood is to wake up to your kid kicking you really hard in the face because in the middle of the night they ran into your bedroom slept sideways and on top of you and their dad and keep moving and kicking through the night. Or them preferring you as their pillow.


Motherhood is guilt, confusion. NOISE lots of NOISE and screams... worry.. oh lots of worry.. its like the moment you become a mother is the moment you will worry for the rest of your life NONSTOP.. even when everything is FINE you WORRY that WHAT IF this happened to my kids? And you freak out and just want to protect them and hide them from the cruelty of the world.


You feel guilty all the time because no matter what you do you will make mistakes.. because no matter what you do you will never be perfect. You feel guilty because in the midst of your crazy day you forgot that you promised to get your daughter or son something you had promised to get them.  You feel guilty after you lose it for a minute and yell at them and then see them sleeping so innocently and want to ball your eyes out because they are so CUTE and innocent and you are such a bad mom. :(--

Motherhood is being so tired that your initial bad memory is now even Worse.. that you might go to buy groceries and go back home forgetting the whole trolley in the store. I believe with every kid that you deliver a part of your brain DIES or is no longer functional.. or maybe it becomes so OVERUSED it just CRASHES.

Motherhood is being the REFEREE when your kids fight.. usually over the toys that they have NEVER EVER Played with.. one of them Touches something the OTHER starts WANTING it!
its like the real life baby version of STREET fighter.. only they are usually at HOME.. and their fights usually end in them calling each other " STINKY POOPOO" or lulu threatening Lina that she will draw her with a SAD face if she does not give her the toy back.

Motherhood is going to shop for yourself and coming back with loads of stuff for your kids forgetting that you went to get something for YOU..

Motherhood is being so used to having the Kids CD in the car with their nursery songs ( which you know by heart) on loop to the point that even when there are no kids in the car when you park your realize OH this was on the whole time :S

Motherhood is cleaning  and changing diapers and wiping more poop and that you never imagined you would see in your whole life.

Motherhood also turns you into a poop expert and you master giving suppositories and knowing the healthy poop from the oh no she is constipated or sick poopie.

Motherhood turns us into the fastest thermometers! by the first touch on your kids forehead you KNOW if their temperature is above normal

Motherhood is feeling sick and suffering from a million physical problems but sucking it up and doing everything you do everyday because so many people depend on you.


Motherhood is getting lots of unwanted advice from people who are desperately in need of Advice but are in denial and think they know it all. Its dealing with people touching your belly and talking to it when you are pregnant as if you are no longer there.. HElloo... you do know im up here right?


Motherhood is when you really start to rethink your life and start appreciating everything your mother did and you realize that she did her best and that no matter how old you are she will always see you as her little baby.


Motherhood is thinking about 10000000 things at once and doing 100000 things at once and its all about the art of multitasking

Motherhood is understanding what your 2 year old means when she says " Montess" (monster)
and lots of other gibberish that sounds so clear to you.

Motherhood is not even hesitating when using your bare hands to wipe your kids Barabeeer ( boogers) or your sleeve when their noses are runny all over your face and there is no Tissue in SIGHT   * people cringe and decide not to shake dinas hand EVER


Motherhood is having so many hormonal changes happen in your body that you are crying one second laughing the next. You crave food you have never craved when you are pregnant.
Your belly is a bottomless pit.. and i doubt brad pitt would approve of it.. haha




 
 Motherhood is feeling like a cow after delivery and not only becuase you now Pump your own milk but also because your body still seems to be prengnat even though your baby is already a year old :S



 Motherhood is carrying your toddler who btw walks now because she refuses to sit in a stroller and wants you to carry them and is throwing a tantrum in the middle of the grocery store. So you end up pushing the trolley in one hand carrying your daughter in the other and by the end of the day your arm is shaking from all the weight and ofcourse the Disc in your back that was caused by carrying your daughter abruptly is not getting any better this way :S


Motherhood is peoples looks piercing through you as they glare at you in the mall when your kid decides to take off her shoes and throw them at you or throws a tantrum.





Motherhood is sitting around your kids after a long hectic exhausting day, and suddenly one of them does something really hilarious and you laugh from your heart even though phsyically you didnt think you were capable of laughing this hard . You find yourself in a laughing fit and you notice your daughters missing teeth and how the new ones are now out already and how they grow up so fast. And you hear this innocent giggles and laughs and in that moment you pause and realize that these are YOUR babies and they are right here and they LOVE YOU inspite of your many flaws and mistakes. They are worth every sacrifice you have made... They ARE your life.. and you are blessed to have them right there with you... AL hamdulilah.. 



  Motherhood is a lot of things.. some are wonderful.. some are exhausting. but its not all smiles and laughter. There will be a lot of drama and crying. There will be days where you feel like a total failure. There will be days where you feel i did good today. Don't be so hard on yourself because in the end all they need is your love. 

May God protect our children and Bless our Mothers who indeed have sacrificed and continue to sacrifice selflessly for thier kids everyday. 

       Happy Mothers Day to All the Moms in the World.. You are the comfort of the world.














Thursday, February 27, 2014

Dont Judge Ya Hajj


As we grow older we learn by our new experiences everyday and whether we like it or not we do change. Life changes us not necessarily to worst or better, we just change and learn that the world is not as simple as we thought. We learn that in this world there is not 1 single person who is 100% identical to the next. We are different biologically, psychologically and not one of us has the same fingerprint. Even identical twins have their differences and in the End God will judge us for the way we chose to live our life, the sins we have done and only GOD has the right to do that.

Unfortunately in this time and day every single one of us is judging one another. Whether we admit it or not, some make their judgments out loud and act upon them, others keep the judgment in their minds and give the person a chance to prove them wrong.

When we meet a person, we immediately and often unconsciously assess that person by how they look, how they act. Its a split-second judgment we make sometimes even involuntarily. we judge others by what they are wearing, how they talk and who they are with.

i believe a lot of us judge each other to make ourselves feel better or superior to one another. Like pointing at that half naked lady saying " Can you believe what she is wearing??".. I am guilty of doing that several times. :S 

Its that moment your kids throws a tantrum in the mall and people don't look at your baby but at you and their looks are saying what a bad parent you are. 

Every single day we judge and are judged. And some people are extremists and some people are a little more subtle but we all do it and we all hate being judged as well.

One of the main changes i feel has changed in myself is that i have completely different perspective of others. Life taught me to never say " I'll never do that?" or " No way No way i will be in such a position".  Everything is possible. One day you are judging someone for doing something and the next thing you know, years later you are in their place being judged for that same thing.

We sometimes feel that its okay to tell someone how they should behave or what is acceptable and what is not. Like we know better and that we are right because well OFCOURSE WE ARE RIGHT! * pshhht * rolls eyes to express how ridiculous anyone would be to suggest she could ever be wrong

Truth is first step to opening up your mind is to accept that YOU too could be very wrong.
Our judgment of others is an extension of our own self-judgment, based on our own backgrounds adn beliefs.

We have a certain expectation or idea in our mind of how someone SHOULD act, or REACT.Once we meet someone who does not react according to our standards or ideologies we automatically start to criticize them. 


As a Muslim, and Hijabee i feel my hijab is the fastest way people judge me. Automatically they think oh she is a hijabee and must be an extremist.  She must have issues and be very oppressed. She must not have a sense of humor.. and so on. a lot of negative stereotypes come with Islam unfortunately and I feel when traveling abroad you have to work twice as hard to break those stereotypes. 

In the US i found myself giving out extra smiles and hellos to people and it was like i was trying to get them to see im NOT a terrorist. I am not Oppressed! And no matter how nice they were to me the moment Lulu cried they would look at her with such fear in thier eyes and inspect her face to see if i slapped her or beat her up while they weren't looking. This ofcourse was not everyone but some people, others were really friendly but not matter what i was always so self-conscious of my hijab.

i felt when i entered a quiet room that as soon as they look at me they hear..

 ALLAHIU AKBAAAAAAAAAAAAAR * imaginary gunshot sounds in the background

So sad that even Al Takbeer which is the start of every prayer, every adan is now just connected with violence and terrorism. When In reality if there is any religion in the world that is about PEACE it is 
ISLAM! 

The meaning of ISLAM is slam is derived from the Arabic root "Salema": peace, purity, submission and obedience. In the religious sense, Islam means submission to the will of God. 

ASSALAM is one of Gods divine names which means Peace. 



But even here in between our own same cultures even people of the SAME religion can be harsher or each other than those from totally different religions and cultures. 

I too was once caught up into a very harsh judgement phase where i too judged people by what they wore, by what they did. But now i try to see beyond what is obvious. I have met so many people who hide behind their Hijab, Jilbab even Niqab. I have seen people treat those who remove hijab as if they have left ISLAM. When in reality leaving prayer is far worse. As leaving prayer is Kabeera a major sin.

Did it ever occur to you people that maybe your non-stop judgments and expectations and harsh words about her hijab are what brought her to take it off?

Did it ever occur to you that by just getting up to pray that itself is a reminder to pray, instead of telling her GO PRAY HARAM HARAM you will go TO Hell?

Did you ever stop and pray for that person who you are criticizing instead of attacking them?

Hijab is a responsibility that many brave muslim woman are willing to take. It is a step that many fear to take, other make in a young age, others make after a sudden rush of IMAN and faith. For whatever reason a woman chooses to wear hijab it is something that is between her and between Allah. It should definitely be a way of measuring a persons faith.

Dont get me wrong.. i am Pro-hijab . I love my hijab but i also like every human being make mistakes. I struggle with my prayers.. i know that my hijab is not always right and i have a long way to go. Its a constant jihad that i and every Muslim goes through. We all have our ups and downs and life is hard enough without people judging you and putting more burdens on you that you can handle.

I have had many people who are dear to me remove hijab. At first i judged. It upset me a lot. I think it was after someone i loved very dearly removed it that it it HIT ME. Maybe her being judged all the time is what drove her to remove it. Maybe her Faith is no longer as strong as it was to be able to represent Islam by her actions. Maybe she is starting to feel that her actions are bringing shame or ruining islams reputation and in her mind removing it is a way of removing the responsibility of being seen as the walking symbol of ISLAM. Maybe she could handle the burden of being treated with such prejudice and discrimination but could not bare to see that her hijab is bringing this same treatment to her own kids. 

I can imagine if someone beat me up and asked me to remove hijab i will refuse. But if they lay a finger on my daughters i am not sure if i will be that strong. Allah ythabetna and inshala i never go through that test.

So don't assume things on your own and assume you are better than that person in anyway because the only difference between you and her is that her weakness is more visible.



I'm not saying what she is doing is right and it will always break my heart to see someone dear let go of something so precious. i believe we all struggle and the reward for this inner struggle we fight is greater than we know. We all have our weaknesses and strengths some peoples weakness are more obvious than others.

 I'm just saying don't treat that person with an obvious weakness with such harsh judgment and know that maybe behind that outer appearance is a seed of goodness that can only grow if its watered with kind words and love and not harsh criticism. 

 Be kind to one another and no that every person has been created with different gifts, weaknesses and strength, every person has different interests, abilities and capabilities.

 Not one person in this world has shared the same exact experiences in this life. 

Not one person has the exact same thoughts and experiences.  

To my dear hijabee sisters who are struggling with thier hijab and are started to feel that its a burden on them. Know that your hijab will not ward off potential husbands. I know that we are constantly surrounded by distractions and temptations that overwhelm us at times. And at times you will feel like a hypocrite by the things you do. Try to remember the beauty of it and how you felt when you first wore it. Try to realize how much good has come into your life and how much peace and tasyeer has come your way. 

I speak for myself and i feel hijab is a protection, its a constant reminder to oneself. I feel after i wear it i always think twice or more before i do something. I know that i do hold a great responsibilty and that i do whether i like or not srand for islam with my actions. I have respect for it and that respect is what stops me sometimes. I feel by holding on to it it is a form of 3ibada and if i chose to jahed everyday to please Allah it is one door that i am keeping open and i know that maybe with this door God will help me in my struggle and will open many other doors for me.

If every woman left hijab because she felt she could not represent islam as a sinner, there would be no hijab in the world because not one of us is strong enough or perfect to be the IDEAL muslimah. 

If the prophet ( pbuh ) left spreading Islam once things got tough and once people hurt him there would be no ISLAM. 

Jihad is part of our everyday life. Always know the harder it is for you the greater the reward.
Have Faith in Allah and remember you have it on to please HIM. 

 Only God can judge us. Allah the most Merciful who knows of our differences says in the Quran in 
Surat Al-'Anbyā' (The Prophets) - سورة الأنبياء


"And We place the scales of justice for the Day of Resurrection, so no soul will be treated unjustly at all. And if there is [even] the weight of a mustard seed, We will bring it forth. And sufficient are We as accountant."

Sub7anllah It is not even ONE scale for everyone. Only God knows how he will judge us on that scale and he left a lot in " 3ilm al ghayb". What i know is that for each and every person and there will Justice, there will be no INJUSTICE and only God is all-knowing and only he knows how he will judge us so please don't act like you are God by saying who will go to hell and who will go to heaven.

And please please enough with the lollypop and flies metaphor. It is degrading to woman. We are not sweets or lollypops. And if i was not a hijabee i would be highly offended that just because i dont have the scarf on that i am now filthy. I have a lot of non-hijabi friends and family who are so decent and pious and hijab is not a way of measuring ones purity. 

This topic was focused on hijab but it applies to every single judgment we make about those who we know nothing about.

So if you really religious and fear Allah and want whats best for your Deen.. Dont judge ya hajj and try to think of kinder ways to help those who are struggling with thier faith because it is kindness that will make a difference.

Allah ythabetna and help us to be stronger in the face of shaytan and the daily temptations we face.

Saturday, January 25, 2014

LonLons Birthday



It has been a very busy month! Lonlons birthday was lovely and i think the kids had a good time.  The thing is with birthdays they are a lot like weddings. There is always someone who you didnt invite that is pissed that you didnt invite them.They are not really just about the birthday girl who wasnt really sure she was the birthday girl at one point. Its about sharing your happiness. Its about making others happy because you are happy on this day. Its seeing kids dance and enjoy going back home with favors. Watching them Bang Away at  the Pinata that didnt tear open till i tore it open like the HULK! Then seeing them attacking the candy on the ground. It was a lot of work but seeing all those kids happy made it worth it :)

 You will never be able to please anyone and well something always does not go as planned but in the end it is just a birthday and if it was for me i would invite everyone i know but it was not possible which is why i had a small DIY party :) Here are the pics i promised to share with the little party details for inspiration.

Under the Sea Theme.



Welcome Frame :)

Customized Clay Giveaways

Customized Chocolate & Hershey Kisses
Customize Chocolate Lollypops
Sea Animal Theme Bubbles
 Crab Shaped Plates


Fish Theme Marshamallows dipped in White Chocolate
 
 Customized Favor Beach Set!
Fishing Game :)

 
 Lots of Prizes, Coloring Corner & more Games



 I had a Shark boxing corner as well :) which i forgot to take photos of



And a little Mermaid Lonlon ofcourse Awwww

A lot of my friends helped me and without my friends and lovely neighbors help i think this bday would not have been such a success :)


Oh i also had a huge surprise myself on my BIRTHDAY ! which was 2 days ago :)

Im 32

*CROWD GASPS

*dino nods slowly with eyes closed

My cute neighbors came over with a surprise bday cake and i was all dressed up ready to go out on a bday DATE. which was all part of the surprise..

First time anyone ever surprises me on my bday..

i feel so loved.. and happy.. al hamdulilah

Family,Friends, Nutella ∧ lots of laughs that was the best birthday ever...



I am now taking orders for customized birthday themes and you can check out the fb page 


We offer a variety of desserts, Customized chocolates, favors,  water bottles, Pushpops ,  candy bags Lollypops & can design any party theme of choice :)






 


Monday, January 13, 2014

Birthday wala 3urus?


So i feel these days im i have a lot on my mind.. My mind is constantly thinking of things that i need to get done and thing that i did or didnt do and du du du du du du ya bayee shu bagurr ana

So this month is full of events... Tomorrow my lonlon turns 2!! cant believe 2 years have passed! 
*dina remmebers that she said that she will have lina potty trained at 2
oh oh.. my aim is by 3 years inshala :P

So.. anyhow.. so its my lonlons birthday.. Jan 14th. my Sisters Birthday is Jan 15th.. i remember 2 years ago my sister asked me to wait another day for my induction so that they celebrated together..  i remember back then i could not wait a second longer to BOG my baby lonlon out into this word.. 

Another major change happening is that we are MOVING to a new house.. or not.. still not sure.. depends on if the owner will be Son of 7alal and not raise the rent to balyooon alf.. 
We all expected this Rise since Expo.. but anyhow.. Inshala khier..

And another event soon.. is my SISTERS WEDDING! my little sister who is now 3aroosa.. its just one of those moments in life that you wait for but then when it happens or its happening you dont get it. in my head i think , you are the same girl i used to sing BURP songs to when we were younger! yeah well at the age of 7 i think i discovered how to burp and talk.. and i used to annoy my sister by singing the alphabet in one long BURP.. ok.. not so feminine.. haha 

So a lot is going on.. hamdulilah all is good... but believe it or not in the midst of all this what is stressing me out the most is planning my lonlons birthday party!... initially i planned on having a small party.. just us a cake and happy birzdayyy to yooou ree rampa rampa..


Suddenly i find myself running from store to store buying decorations and think of themes...  5 kids turned into 5x5 and i find myself planning the birthday details all day and my husband ( as would many husbands) doesn't get it..

WHY do woman spend all this time, effort and MONEY on a Birthday??? 
Who care how the plates look like! and so on.. 

* dino has expressionless face

i have to agree that some people over do it.. and slowly i feel birthdays are the new WEDDINGS.. 
its no longer about the kids having fun.. its about that fancy candy stand with those little fancy candy that is probably to hard to even be chewed.. its about those cookies and cake pops that are just too CUTE to eat!! The amount of money people are willing to spend on birthdays is 
RIDICULOUS!

So my little 3aroosa sis who is no longer little thought the birthday was yesterday. and well came with the party balloons and gifts and i was like... *blank face.. 
arent you supposed to get the helium balloons on the DAY of the party?
hahaaha anyhow.. so cute that she even went through the trouble.. 


So little lonlon was so excited to see her fishy balloon, and was playing with it a bit aggressively and then lulu joined and i think one of the balloons is officially dead while the other is still surviving.. i foudn myself yelling at them to not ruin the balloon.. 

WALKOM kharabtoooooohom!!
btw balloons are freaking expensive these days

Then it hit me.. i was so worried about the party.. the balloons gettign ruined that i forgot that the most important thing is that this party is FOR HER.. she should tefga3 as many ballaleen as she wants.. she should be happy... that should be my concern and not what people think about my Birthday theme and presentation..

We get so caught up in the party details and we forget that in the end our kids dont care about the candy stand presenation, they dont care about the matching tags and favor bags.. they dont care about all that.. we dont need to spend thousands of dirhams to make them happy.. 

happiness is sometimes in the simplest things that probably don't even cost money..

I buy my daughter all sorts of expensive toys. In the end of the day the most fun they have is when we all gather under the blanket and play " CATHLE" ( castle) is the name of the game according to lonlon... Or i find lonlon playing with an empty tissue box or keys! 


 In our mind we feel better buying the expensive gifts thinking the more expensive the gift the Better.. throughout the years we ourselves have changed and have become to hard to please..or to be content.. we are always looking at what others have or what "COST" more.

Our kids dont want fancy toys they want Love.. they want to feel loved. they want to spend quality time with thier parents.. We sometimes get them those expensive gifts because we feel bad that we are not spending enough time with them.. to compensate for that.. not knowing that no gift or toy will replace the fun of quality time with them..

I remember when i first came UAE. i lived in Sharjah.. i remember the first time we ran into "MAJAZ PARK" next to our house.. like it was HEAVEN.. we got on the swings although we were j7oosh ya3ni hahha i was 13 i think... to us we are not used to seeing so much greenery in Amman.. then we visited Burjuman Mall.. at that time there was no Dubai Mall, Emirates Mall, There was no Dancing Fountains or SKi Dubai.. we stood there in Burjuman Mall.. look a dancing fountain.. looking back at how amazed we were i kind of understand why some people were staring :S 

I remember going into the  SEE THROUGH elevator and never will i forget how AMAZED WE WERE! WAWWW WAAAAAW WAAAW

MAAMMAAAA SHOOOFI IL ASANSAYR SHAFAAAF!

( MOOOM LOOK THE ELEVATOR IS SEE THROUGH)
* head stuck on elevator glass as dino looks down as it goes up with mouth wide open with amusement!


Years later.. i stand infron of the Dubai Mall water fountains.. and i know they are amazing and wow but ive seen them so many times i feel like im no longer amused.. i stand there and enjoy the show but im no longer in that SHOCK of WOW THIS IS WOOOOOOOW!

I notice not only i have this feeling.. i see several shows in Dubai Shopping Festival and many are with acrobats or people doing seriously dangerous acts... hanging from the ceiling with no net.. stuff like that.. and i look at the peoples faces as they munch on popcorn or look like they are about to fall asleep.. hardly anyone even claps.. like its everyday they see a man swallowing knives.. 

Anyway... back to topic.. i just wish that one day i start a blogpost about something and not end up talking about something else :S 

So about lonlons birthday.. yes its getting bigger than i expected.. but in my mind i feel the birthday is a reflection of the mother... or at least it has become that these days.. i personally love doing all the little details.. but i will not pay thousands and try to do the simple doable ideas that are reasonable and not too costly..

In the End... I feel its ART... and letting it out in my daughters birthday is something i enjoy.. its very tiring and i will regret it after but well when she is older i will show her the pics and she will appreciate the trouble her mommy went through to make her day even more special..

Some ideas are just TOO CUTE AND TEMPTING! 


* p.s. I will not be blogging till after the bday so much to dooooo
* dino runs around like Um il 3aroosss ( mother of the bride)

:p








Thursday, January 09, 2014

Merry Mawled Nabawi


I don't consider myself a religious person although in my life many have called me an extremist for just simply deciding to wear the hijab. I don't like to get into Islamic debates on halal and haram because i don't feel i have enough Islamic knowledge to defend my point of view, opposed to someone who has memorized the quran and many ahadith. I fear that me not being able to answer might give the other person the feeling that they are right, therefore i will not speak of halal and haram but just something i have noticed and lived through growing up.

I remember in school days we waited for christmas, halloween, easter & i remember giving out X-mas cards each year to friends. It was the best time of the year. I was not very Islamically conscious, lets say. When i grew older and starting to learn more about islam, i loved it more and more. I may not be the best Muslim but i am now a very PROUD Muslim.

I remember Eid passed by year after year with our family gatherings eating ka3k il 3eed. I never liked ka3k then. now after years of eating it i learnt to like it. Anyway. most of the time our dresses and so neat and slightly uncomfortable. We would sit politely in our relatives house as our parents discussed politics, asked about other relatives and every once in a while they would ask 

" Keefek habeebti.. meen bet7ibii hown aktar wala Amman, wala il Kuwait" 
( what do you like better Amman Kuwait or Dubai?"

Followed by an aggressive pinch to the cheek that left my cheek in excruciating pain! as they say 
" MA AZKAAAHA" ( hmmm HOW DELICIOUS is SHE)
* that is a rhetorical question btw that means im so CUTE.. which BTW i am..
 but that is not the point haha

So.. we sit there bored as ever.. unless we are visiting our cousins who are our age.. then we dont want to leave.. suddenly 5 mins later  my parents say we have to go visit other elderly people.. WE start whining " LA LA LA baba we want to stay!!" Dad gives the jahra look and we run to the car becase we know what that look means"

 * dino does cut throat move :P

So.. anyhow.. EID to me was not exactly Fun.. Although i remember my mom got me the nicest fanciest dresses and i did feel like a princess.

Now As Muslim Mother. i feel it is my duty to make our children love EID, not as much as they love christmas but MORE. I want them to learn that yes we respect other religions, yes we are all brothers and sisters but we as Muslims should Celebrate our Islamic Occasions.

Year after year i look around the malls, with all the Christmas Decorations, and i feel yes it is beautiful. But what about EID? We are in a Muslim Country aren't we? I ran into store after store on EID to find decorations for the house. i barely found anything but one light in the Union Coop. In Xmas there was several stalls full of xmas decorations and cards. Playing Xmas carols all day.

If you say you dont get a little fuzzy feeling in your heart when you hear Xmas carols i wont believe you.

My dear Christian friends dont get me wrong. I respect your religion and celebrations, but my heart aches when i see Muslims forgetting about EID. Getting X-mas trees in thier homes and wearing xmas pjs the night before they open their xmas gifts. When on EID they dont do anything at all.
Our religion respects all religions and Muslim Men marry Christians and that proves that Muslims and Christians not only can live together but also start a family together. Islam urges us to be kind with all people without any kind of discrimination due to differences in faith or race. 


But in the end of the Day you have to ask yourself, What is ISLAM? What is CHristianity?What do you believe in? Do Muslims have their own identity or have they lost it ? As i looked through my FB pics i swear to God i was unsure who was Christian and who was Muslim. 

Whether you like to Admit it or not Christmas is not just fun day where people gather and share gifts harmlessly, it has a religious meaning to Christians.  Its like a christian wearing Hijab and saying its a nice Fashion statement. Its Hijab and its means something is ISLAM.

It is true that this holiday is very popular and it is extremely commercialized; nevertheless it is basically a religious holiday. Its very name and all its symbolism is Christian through and through.

Christians celebrate at Christmas what they believe to be the "day of the birth of God's Son" or what they call "God Incarnate". Thus it is not only a celebration of another religion, it is also a celebration that is based on a belief that is totally against the teachings of Islam. 

How many Christians Dont Celebrate Xmas but Fast Ramadan? How many Christians Dont Celebrate Xmas but Celebrate EID? None that i know of... i heard some fast for fun or in unity but i don't think any christian would not celebrate their own festivity to celebrate another religios one tof another religion they don't believe in.

The argument that “Christmas is, after all, Prophet Jesus' birthday and so there is no harm in celebrating Christmas” is neither logical nor Islamic. Why should Muslims celebrate Jesus' birthday? Why not the birthdays of the other 24 prophets and messengers who are mentioned in the Qur'an by name?  

For us Prophet Muhammad (peace and blessings be upon him) is the final Prophet and Messenger of Allah, not Jesus. Therefore if i will celebrate any Prophets Birth it will be the birth of our Prophet Mohammad (pbuh) who was sent as Mercy to all creation.

For a while i was worried by saying this i would upset my christian friends but now i realized as a Muslim that stands strongly to what i believe in they should respect my point of view and not be upset if i dont celebrate thier religious occassions, they should not be upset if i express how i truely feel about Muslims who act more christian than Muslim as i know they also stand strong to what they believe in and will feel the same way if the tables were turned.

Here are two FREE designs you can print and stick on any sweet favor bags for your kids if you wanted ideas to celebrate. 


Maybe we can make this day a day to teach our kids about the greatest man that ever was.. maybe we ourselves can learn more about him. Because how can we possibly love our prophet Mohamad (pbuh) if we don't know about his life and all the great things he has achieved and been through,
 


اللهمَّ صلِّ على سيِّدنا محمَّد وعلى آلِه وصحبِه وسلِّم