Sunday, February 18, 2007

Cow Ther@pY






After cow chose to go out with the "mgali3" player Bull behind my back... she hates to admit that i was right about him... anyway.. its not about who is right and who is wrong... now she is heart broken and is going through a very weird phase where she is doing all sorts of things she wouldnt usually do... like she is punishing herself ...

she got piercings and tatoos all over her body... she started smoking... swearing a lot... dresses up in a very inappropriate way...sleeps all day or listens to a lot of heavy metal... songs with titles like " ABUSE ME" and " SUICIDAL DREAM"... i feel she has a problem talking to me because she feels i lecture her a lot.. so instead i feel this unbreakable barrior between us... a loud silence everytime we sit together.... that is if we DO sit together...

she keeps saying " Even the richest COWS end up Burgers in Burger KING or McDonalds eventually"

*sigh*

So... i suggested therapy... and there is no shame in seeking help.. sometimes letting things off your chest even to a total stranger helps... Did you know an average person has around 50,000 negative thoughts a day!

Depression is something everyone goes through at some point in their life... it varies from person to person.. at how serious is it & how long it lasts.. It is usually caused by traumatic experiences or disappointments in life... It all about perception and when someone is happy the sky is blue, the birds are singing and when he is depressed the sky is grey and everything sounds like noise to you..

Here is some information about some of the different kinds of depression :

Mild Depression :

The symptoms of this form of depression include low self-esteem, a general feeling that nothing's worth doing, and a lack of interest in activities that used to be pleasurable. It's the most common form of depression, and is easily mistaken by others as simple unhappiness. Many people go through this type of depression, and recover from it, without really understanding what happened to them. Believe it or not a person suffering from mild depression has a more realistic perspective in life opposed to someone who is too optimistic with unrealistic goals.

Major Depression

Few people experience major depression without it becoming very obvious to those around them that they are depressed. The symptoms are similar to those of mild depression, but much worse. The lethargy can be so profound that the sufferer has trouble even getting out of bed, while any interest in previously-enjoyable activities will have gone. Loss of appetite & the desire for social interaction; all these will have significantly reduced. Feelings of guilt, worthlessness and despair can be so powerful that sufferers of major depression are prone to have suicidal thoughts, or even to attempt suicide.

Manic depression
A less common form of depression is manic depression, in which the sufferer has dramatic mood swings, from depression to mania. One day they may feel as though their world is about to end, while another day they'll be fantastically, unrealistically optimistic and cheerful. People suffering from manic depression are often artistic, and express their pain through their art.

Post-natal depression
Having a baby is a major change in anybody's life.The birth of a child makes a big difference to the hormone levels in the mother. With the sleepless nights, extra pounds and additional stress of coping with new demands on the mother's time and attention, it's not surprising that some women slip into a state of mild depression after childbirth. In some cases this can become major depression.

So.. point is... we all have gone through or will go through depression at a certain point in our life.. my advice is to not let yourself move from mild depression to major depression by realizing what the cause is... deal with it rather than sleep it away.. talk about it to someone close to you if you don't like the idea of therapy...

And believe it or not its all in your head.... its a DECISION you make.. DECIDE to be happy.. to GET OVER your depressing thoughts.. replace them with POSITIVE thoughts...

Life does not always go as planned.. you WILL make mistakes..you WILL make wrong decisions...you will suffer the consequences... the bull could break your heart.. but this is life.. don't dwell over your mishaps.. don't curse your fate.. dont blame yourself or punish yourself... just try to LEARN from your experiences..

there could be a million reasons to feel depressed... but i believe if you find just ONE good reason not to be.. if its good enough...those reasons fade away.... everything happens for a reason... and if you don't see its for the best at that same instant you learn later on that GOD loves you...

Everything you go through.. whether if its good or bad.. is part of a bigger plan for you.. have faith in God
because your happiness is in HIS hands..

If you go the wrong path... and you realize you are on the wrong path.. its never too late to turn back... its like taking a wrong turn... you either go farther away and deeper to dark scary roads that could lead to another country... or you realize you took a WRONG turn... and just simply GO BACK... to the right path...

If you are depressed... read a lot of quran :) it helps...

Quotes i like :

Life does not cease to be funny when people die any more than it ceases to be serious when people laugh.

I lived my life knowing that when i look back at my tears i'd laugh, but i never knew looking back at my laughs i would cry

The art of life is the art of avoiding pain. ~Thomas Jefferson

ok i talk way too much....

14 comments:

Mrs. Al Ramahi said...

7aram el cow :( she should lsn more to you in her next relation..but sometimes little cows just do whats in their heads and dont listen to anybody.. they get so stubborn..

I totally agree with you, that happiness is a decision, and you are the only person to get yourself out of depression.. if you decide to be depressed then you are.. if you decide to be happy then no one can stop you..

ramroom said...

I had enjoyed every single word in ur post.. bless you :)

"I lived my life knowing that when i look back at my tears i'd laugh, but i never knew looking back at my laughs i would cry"
So true! One of the depression causes is facing the ugliness of reality, when we start to remember the moment of happiness that we lived

"Even the richest COWS end up Burgers in Burger KING or McDonalds eventually"
sigh 3njad :D :D

MQabbani said...

thanks for share
kinds of depression

and about ur cow ... did she DRINK ? it's help to forget ... :P

Ahmed said...

Dear Sara & Samer,

I really don't know who leads a more pathetic and boring life but it defenitly comes down between you and Samer. The only thing that seems to bring joy to your lives is bringing other down people.

Maybe somethin in the post hit a nerve?!

Mystique said...

Seriously Ahmed i was thinking the same thing before i came down to ur reply.. inno sho hal 2araf! Dandoon, la2eelik 7al wo moderate il comments la2ano mosatawa kteeeeeeeeer wa6i!

Bas i loved ur post.. kteer 2allab mawaje3.. ka2anek wa2feh wo fa3e9teeyon lal mawaje3 :P

Wo kil kilmeh sa7.. seriously very true.. ana 7abbait :l:

:smiley raye7 yo23od ma3 nafso:

:mwahat:

Islamic ChoCoHoLic said...

ok to all you ppl who commented normal comments i appreciate what you said...

but well due to the many rude and inappropriate comments i keep getting i will now have my comments moderated..

mrs al ramahi wa ramroom :) thanks glad u enjoyed reading this

mqabbani im sure she drinks too now lol

samer pls post ur comments somewhere else because i seriously have no interest in your (female dog) or what effect it has on your life... you are simply very disrespectful...

sara... i wonder who is more bored.. me or you.. ur the one reading what i write :S

anyway anyone with the slightest IQ would notice that when i write abt the imaginary cow i am not referring to a real cow but i bring up topics & issues & discuss them through her fictional stories...

who & what i focus my attention on is none of your business... but just so you know.. "Ahmed" will never be compared to an imaginary cow ..

And i do have a life...its him :)

Jaz said...

1 Major depression you got here :D

I mean it's cool looking at life from your perspective; but for the depressed person things aren't as you think they are! elaborating, what is you see as white, I see it as dark!

That's why it's hard to make a decision, look I really want to be happy, but I can't knowing a problem is waiting in the next corner!

Anyways I did enjoy reading :)

MQabbani said...

sho fee ? al zaher ra7 3ali she hon...

hmmm ,

"anyway anyone with the slightest IQ ... ""

hmm you should say NO OFFENSE :p

and my IQ is 122 o to hardly get ur points :P .. J/K

any way never mind about what ever who ever say ..and DONT reply like no body say any thing 3adi IGNORE ....

psychoanalysis for the post's :

wala balsh a7san .... bedi go sleep ana

nice posts ur doing A+ ;)

Islamic ChoCoHoLic said...

jazz yes you are right its sometimes easier said than done.. it doesn't happen over night.. but when you have this helpless attitude towards it its harder to get over it.. you have to try to be optismistic & instead of awaiting the next problem think of the next solution :) i hope you feel better soon


Mqabbani LOL wallah sorry NO OFFENSE wallah... i was just very annoyed with the previous comment..

maybe its not that obvious... wa sorry ya gama3a... khalas mar2ooha :)

PŕōuđPāŀĩ said...

i actually love the fact that morals come from ur imaginary cow's life :D keep it up girl, creative minds are scarce :flower:

"Everything you go through.. whether if its good or bad.. is part of a bigger plan for you.. have faith in God
because your happiness is in HIS hands.." this is very true, yeslam temmek and bless!

SomeGuyFromPlanet said...

Praying, alcoholic drinking, falling in love, those are things that can get rid off depression.

But the best is falling in love because this cure lasts longest above all lol.

Oriental Arabesque said...

believe if you find just ONE good reason not to be.. if its good enough...those reasons fade away.... everything happens for a reason... and if you don't see its for the best at that same instant you learn later on that GOD loves you...

that's soooo true, we have to keep on reminding ourselves

thanks for the nice topic

Life said...

7abibti dont let those sickminded people disturb you..

I really hope you also delet that comment in the previous post about Jordanian people.. that is not freedom of speech that is very Rude..

Someone there is saying that Jordanian is disgusting... Do you agree on that???

jaz said...

I do :)

I am wearing the happy dress now, let's hope it would last :D