Monday, February 27, 2006

CoMMiTmEnT PhObi@

So... time for more of my psychological problems.. hmm what should i talk abt tonite ? i wonder... lets see.. what is the subject that is brought up every SINGLE DAY? hmmm did u guess? YES MARRAIGE!! Everyday someone has to mention the M word!!

Well i understand that well eventually most people get married..and that its the way life is... ur a kid.... u GROW up.. u realize ur not a kid anymore..ppl realize ur not a kid anymore... they begin to NAG NAG NAG!!!

so u decide its time to get ur own kids... soo hmmm ok fine GET MARRIED! ehe its not like a button u press... or a decision u can easily make JUST LIKE THAT?!...

so ppl ask " WHY ARENT U MARRIED YET?" is ther a right answer to that? hmmm u could say

"welll... hmmm why get married and raise a family when u can raise cows and sheep instead.. at least U milk the cows!" (sarcasm)

Well... im not against marraige ofcourse... but i hate the continous nagging and obssession abt it... i mean why the rush??

Don't know why i thought that by the time i feel im READY.. suddenly the RiGHt man would appear at my doorstep on a white horse! Well... too much TV for me...

I feel if someone who could potentially be my future husband comes along .. there always a major FLAW or lets say OBstacle... makes it impossible to consider.....

Lets seee.. Too short....Too serious.. Too Open-Minded...Too Controlling...Too Clingy or Emotionally Unavailable...Too immature.. Too Broke....Too Boring... i can go on forerver.... sigh.. no im not picky... but there is ALWAYS something wrong..

im not perfect.. ( although i know you all beg to differ ) lol heh YES I KNOW NO ONE is perfect... but i know someone out there is perfect for me... and when i meet that someone ill know if he is THE ONE... and then i probably wouldnt freak out about commitement ...

i hate the feeling of being responsible for a family... little helpless kids who depend on you for everything ... everything includes diaper changing!!! ew

i hate feelin tied down or controlled.. For some reason i feel marriage is somewhat a way of sacrifcing all ur time,efforts,plans...etc UR LIFE is no longer urs.. heh

ur life becomes ur family... ur time is thier right... ur life revolves around them.. and thier lives revolves around u... Its not a temporary decision u make and quit like a job u feel didnt go as u imagined...

MARRAIGE IS IT! it is THE Beginning OF THE END!! heh see it is FOR LIFE...FOREVER.. THE REST OF UR LIFE with someone... WAKe up to them everyday... EVERYDAY....SAT SUN MON TUES WED THURS FRI ....Eeeeeeeeeeeeeeeek!! i get bored easily!! i need my time ALONE! i hate routines! i hate too much REsPonsibilties!


*gets asthma attack

Im not sure im ready...sometimes i feel i am... but i wish ppl would stop NAGGING!!

i shall raise COWS & SHEEP!!

oh how I love cows! is it allowed to have a Cow as a PET ?


mudassar said...

assallamu allaikum. how r u girls. hey dino and sky how have u been? well my comment for marriage is. 'everyone should get married as soon as possible'. for a guy in dubai it is very hard to live as a batchelor. Russian ladies wont let the batchelars live in peace at dubai. the best way to avoid so many destractions is to get married. i dont kno about other countries and places but in dubai all i can say is better get married soon or keep fasting.

Islamic ChoCoHoLic said...

hey mud.. yes i think men should get married ASAP
so that they dont fall into major russain sins :P

The prophet (pbuh)said "O you young men! Whoever is able to marry should marry, for that will help him to lower his gaze and guard his modesty." (Al-Bukhari)

Modesty was regarded as a great virtue by the Prophet (pbuh). He said, "Modesty is part of faith." (Al-Bukhari)

"Whoever marries a woman solely for her power and position, Allah will only increase him in humiliation. Whoever marries a woman solely for her wealth, Allah will only increase him in poverty. Whoever marries a woman because of her beauty, Allah will only increase him in ugliness. But whoever marries a woman in order that he may restrain his eyes, observe cautiousness, and treat his relations kindly, Allah puts a blessing in her for him and in him for her."

marriage itself is ibada.. a form of worshippin God .. that is ofcourse when you marry someone who will fears Allah..

I migh have seemed anti-marriage hehe but im not...i tend to exaggerate alot...

i know the importance of marriage in islam especially for young men..

God Help Us choose the right partners and grant us faith in our hearts that will help us stay on the right path :)

Mud inshala u will get what you deserve.. God Bless You and keep doing what you are doing and im SURE God will send u a great wife :)

mudassar said...

hey thanks dino.. i will be so happy when i get married inshallah. but i think its gonna take around 4 years for me to get married(personal problems) so i dino wat about u. when r u planning to get married. u must have got so many marriage proposals by now? :) wat about u sky even u would have got so many marriage proposals.. any idea of getting married.

yes dino it is true in islam that men should get married soon. hey it is not only men even girls should get married soon :) hello dino wakeup !! think about it :)

Islamic ChoCoHoLic said...

*blushing ok.. ive got a couple of proposals that didnt go well... its not abt gettin proposals its gettin the right one...

yes ur right... i am thinking abt it... but im not in a rush.. i will not settle for someone who is not right for me just for the sake of gettin married..

i hate the process... but i guess we all go through it to some exent

sk said...

I guess this is the part where West meets East .... have I had proposals ?..yes.
But is it the same pressure?

Like Dino I am shopping around. No shortage of choices but it is a matter of the right one. There will be no perfect choice..for them or us...but you have to have an idea of what you are willing to compromise on. Because there will be compromise. That is part of the deal.

I am holding back..too much to touch on as far as culture differences on this one. I enjoy learning about your culture though. It makes alot of sence.

I have to go to work. Cold, cold , cold here today...

I will no doubt be back with a comment later...interesting subject.

Dino we can start a list of what we are looking for in a man. The good qualities..not the bad.
Mud..give us your list of what you would like in a wife...

mudassar said...

hey i am kind a religious guy.. so the only thing i expect from my wife is to be religious(islamic)..
thats all.. i think no one is perfect in this world.. so i am okay with any girl i get, the only thing is she should be islamic. thats all..

i would be impressed if she is sweet :)

i dont expect anything from my wife.. but at the same time i wanna give her more than she expects from me.. i just wanna keep my wife happy always.. i just wanna make her happy more than i make myself happy..

i really dont give importance to beauty or looks cause wat i belive, is some person may look good today and bad the other day. looks r just temporary but the heart she carries inside is the main thing which is gonna last forever..

mudassar said...

i am still in office.. just lookin at my laptop and think why am i still here (nodding my head from left to right) all the people have left only two of my staff are here.. i am feeling so hungry. just drank coke but stil i am gonna faint..

hey dino i am missing ur pasta.. i wish i was sitting in front of that.. mmmmmmmmmmaaaaannnnnnnn.......... okkkkkkkaaaaaaaaaayyyyyyyy...... Zzzzzzzzzzz...........

i miss food

Islamic ChoCoHoLic said...

hmmm i think i mentioned my list b4 hehe but i dont mind doing it again... OFCOURSE...

TALLER than me...

religious yet openminded,
funny has a sense of humor,
not ugly( i dont mind if he a hottie),
not controlling,
not psychotic,caring,
loves me for all that i am even after knowing the psychotic side,
loves kids,
loves chocolate,
has a nice smile( nice teeth),
dont mind if he is finincially well off..
knows how to speak english/arabic
smart and educated,thoughtful
romantic,understanding, mainly i am hoping he understands me,
loves the simple things in life,
preferably same nationality so that we share the same backgrounds,
not a show off, defintely a non-smoker, hmmmm have i said enough i can go on foerever.. no im not picky hehe

reality is if the guy tall,religous,and funny he has a chance lol :P

so sk? what abt u?

mud hope u find ur islamic wifeee

sk said... day is finished....I am home..let me think, my list.

A man.
My ideas have changed alot as I have known a few men that I thought might be potential candidates
I have gone from the typical good looking and rich to a whole new level

I have reached :

sensitive (but not too sensitive,,dont need to be wipeing up tears and stuff)
in touch with himself and others around him
open spirit..not someone who prejudges others but instead welcomes everyone and gives them a chance.

In having those qualities he will understand me (good and bad...and we will get along just fine).

Now dont tell me I am all sappy and serious.
Just being logical about things.

I am not drawn to materialistic things
I dont put alot of emphasis on looks , I agree with inner beauty. Big heart and generosity.

Yup, that is about it.
He can cook to, I like that idea
And enjoy walking. I love wandering around with no destionation..just the potential of an adventure.
And no TV..I dont own a tv and dont want one...gave mine away 2 years ago.

I am sure there is more...but that is plently for now.

I have to go eat..I am starving ! Where is that man now to cook me something special for dinner....! I would be so grateful. you cook anything ? Or do you do the eat out thing all the time ?

Dino.. How does that work to choose a husband. Do you get to ask him questions and stuff to find out if he meets your "standards" ? This is new to me...but extrememly interesting. I certainly dont disagree with the concept..just trying to understand it.

And if all else fails..remember..helicopter is on standby girlfriend.. . you can count on me!

mudassar said...

assallamu allaikum and a very warm good morning to everyone. hey !! dino and sk u girls will surely get the husband of ur choice inshallah.. no sk i dont kno how to cook cause i never got a chance to cook. i always eat my food outside. i wanna learn cooking. may be someday i might learn cooking and start cooking inshallah..

oye nice topic yar..

hey dino to be frank with u, any guy would be scared to approch u if u tell him all this search criteria.. so dont ever tell him, u jus analyse the guy and u find out urself.

hey dino and sk i got scared when i saw ur criteria.. lol jus kidding..

oh god if girls have so much criteria then will i ever get married ? lol... :)

i pray that u girls must get the best husband u would have ever imagined inshallah.

mudassar said...

knock knock.. anybody out there.. only me and my staff is here in the office.. all are gone.. we have to stay back because we had to perform our magrib salat. our next pick up is at 7.15..
its so boring here..

one good news girls.. 'i got my salary today' yea.. gonna send some money to my mom and dad.. then gonna treat my friends and cousin.. inshallah.. hey dino if u r planning to have a pasta then lemme give u a treat... and sk u treat is pending :)

mudassar said...

hey sky give me ur address will send u pasta home.. :)

mudassar said...

okay people i am leaving now... waitied for u people for a long time but i guess u people did not turn up :( so sad of me.. lol
good night dino and good morning sky..
take care..
have fun..

m.s said...

I believe marriage means to ignore urself, i enjoyed reading for you folks.